Successful habits, increase success. But how can we successfully implement a success enhancing habit?
I usually find myself thinking about what does it take to create a new and more successful habit and trying them on me. After reading a lot of articles on google I’ve stumbled upon a 2013 article on Forbes about habit formation that really got my attention.
“Highly successful people have learned to develop good habits, and it takes discipline, courage and hard work on a daily basis to keep those habits in place. It makes perfect sense to adopt habits that will facilitate success, yet, why are some so difficult to adopt?”
So, what are the 3 phases of habit formation:
Well, the first stage of habit formation is like a relationship:
Phase 1: THE HONEYMOON
This phase of habit formation is characterized by the feeling of “this is easy.”. The honeymoon phase is usually the result of something inspiring. For example, a person attends a highly motivational conference, and for the first few days after the conference the individual is making positive changes in his or her life.
As the days go by inspiration tends to fades and reality sets in. A person finds himself struggling with the positive habit completion and old habits seem to be right around the corner. The key to moving to the third phase of habit formation is to win 2 or 3 “fight thru’s.” This is critical. To win the fight thru, use the following techniques:
- RECOGNIZE: Recognition is essential for winning the fight thru. When you have entered the fight through, simply say to yourself, “I have entered the fight thru, and I need to win a few to move past this.” Winning each fight thru will make it easier to win the next. Conversely, when you choose to lose a fight thru, you make it easier to lose the next one.
- ASK 2 QUESTIONS: “How will I feel if I do this?” and “How will I feel if I don’t do this?” Bring EMOTION into the equation. Let yourself feel the positive in winning the fight thru and the negative in losing.
- LIFE PROJECTION: If the above 2 techniques haven’t moved you to action, then imagine in great detail how your life will be in 5 years if you do not begin making changes. Be totally honest with yourself, and allow yourself to feel what life will be like if the changes are not made.
While on this stage we must raise awareness about the whole process. Understand it in order to implement it successfully.
Phase 3: SECOND NATURE
Entering second nature is often described by feelings of “getting in the groove.” Once in second nature, the following are 3 common interruptions that will send a person back to the fight thru:
- THE DISCOURAGEMENT MONSTER: An individual allows negative results discourage him or her into thinking, “This isn’t working, and there is nothing I can do.”
- DISRUPTIONS: An individual experiences significant change to his or her current pattern (e.g., vacations, holidays, illness, weekends).
- SEDUCTION OF SUCCESS: An individual begins to focus on positive results and begins to think, “I’m the special one. I have finally figured out how to have great results with not so great process.”
It’s easy to feel defeated sometimes. Success is created on a daily basis and mainly it is about consistency. Have heard about “slow and steady wins the race”? Consistency, discipline and daily hard work. In order to be the best version of yourself, you have to do and be what the former version of you haven’t been able to do or to have.
Are you trying to create a new habit?
Can you understand what phase are you in?
Please, let me know!